A Proposal for a Christian Pornography
Many readers have written in to ask us about pornography. Is it acceptable for Christians to view adult entertainment? Our stance on pornography is directly informed by our position on sex and sexuality with regards to Christianity. Depending on the circumstances, the act of intercourse can be either a defilement of the body and soul through lust and indulgence of the senses, or it can be a celebration of God-given sexuality that uplifts the bodies and spirits of both partners. Likewise, pornography could be either degrading and sinful (as it almost always is), or it could depict acts that, when viewed appropriately, could enhance the sexual and sensual relationships of believers.
Erotica with Biblical Foundations
Consider the Song of Solomon, a deeply sensual and erotic book of the Bible, which describes in lyrical detail the sexual and romantic relationship between a bride and bridegroom. Their dialogue relates to spiritual matters, but relates spirituality through a loving physical relationship between husband and wife. This is the model of erotic “edutainment” that we are proposing. We believe that under the right circumstances, and given the correct content, such adult media has the potential to enrich the sexual lives of married Christian partners.
Of course, there is little, if any adult entertainment currently on the market that reflects these values and would be a good choice for Christians. That leads us to call for a new kind of porn – porn that upholds the Christian ethos. Christ-centered porn, made to be viewed by Christians and tailored to their unique needs. We challenge Christians in the adult industry (yes, they do exist – and you know who you are) to step up and truly walk their walk and live their faith by producing pornography that men and women of God can view without compromising their relationship with their Savior, or their relationship with their spouse.
Christians have so many questions about sexuality: what is acceptable or not, how to express sexual desires to their husband or wife, how to have a more fulfilling sex life, and much more. Unfortunately, few in the church are willing to talk openly and in detail about these matters. Most sexual guides for Christians are vague or coy, glossing over graphic details. Believers need sexual resources that are unafraid to actually demonstrate and show them what healthy sexuality in a Christian marriage looks like. For these reasons, we believe there is both a need and a demand for Christian adult entertainment, and so we are issuing this manifesto calling for a new paradigm in pornography.
Toward a Framework for Christian Porn
- It must depict only married couples engaging in sexual acts.
This means that any sexual partners in a Christian porn production must
be husband and wife, both on and off screen. All actors must be married
in real life and portray married couples onscreen. And they must only
be depicted having sex with their wedded spouses.
- It must portray sex within the context of a Christian marriage.
It must be apparent through the actions, behaviors, and speech of the
characters portrayed that they are Christian, lead a Christian
lifestyle, and have a marriage in which their faith is central. This
could be depicted in a variety of ways, with scenes showing a couple
praying together, studying the Bible, attending church or church
functions, and generally relating to one another as loving Christian
spouses outside of the bedroom.
- It must be instructional. Part of the mission of
Christian pornography is to graphically educate married believers in how
to achieve more sexual pleasure, intimacy, and closeness in their
relationships. It can do this by dramatizing various sexual techniques
and positions so that couples can learn how to incorporate them into
their lovemaking routines. In their onscreen roles, the actors should
model both correct sexual techniques and appropriate sexual attitudes,
by being respectful and treating one another’s bodies as the sacred gift
from God that they are.
- Husband and wife must both receive their due benevolence. This is in keeping with the scriptural mandate of I Corinthians 7:3, which says “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.” This means that both sex partners must be shown getting equal pleasure and sexual attention from one another.
- No extramarital sex, unless it is to illustrate the downfalls of adultery.
The spouses in a Christian porn production must never have adulterous
relations, unless they (and their partner in extramarital crime) suffer
and are punished fittingly for their sins. (In deference to modern
conventions, the punishment does not have to be one mandated by
scripture, i.e., being stoned to death.)
- It must be uplifting and inspirational, focusing on strengthening
Christian marriage and Christian faith. Christian porn must have
an overall positive message. Of course, its primary message would be to
demonstrate the sacred use of sexuality and sensuality to reinforce the
bonds of Christian marriage. But in all other respects, it should affirm
Christian values of community, family, faith, honesty, charity, and so
forth. It should show that having a joyous and fulfilling married sex
life is one of the fruits of following the path of righteousness.
- No profanity. Although exclamations of pleasure are acceptable, as are the natural sounds and vocalizations of lovemaking, Christian porn should contain no profanity or swearing. The participants should address each other lovingly and respectfully at all times. Of course, it goes without saying that the actors will not take the Lord’s name in vain, nor that of his Son.
The primary purpose of Christian pornography is to allow married Christian couples to better celebrate their sexuality in order to become more intimate with each other and enjoy a closer walk with the Lord. We envision married couples watching these films or videos together, using them to initiate a frank and open dialogue about sexuality and their own sexual relationship, and then applying the techniques illustrated in the films and incorporating them into their own lovemaking. Watching Christian porn is not intended to replace sex in the marriage, nor is its purpose simply to arouse the sexual appetites of the husband and wife, but to encourage them to use their sexual drives to a higher purpose.
The point of Christian pornography is not to provide material for the fantasies of individuals to use for their own gratification or to fuel masturbation. Although masturbation in itself is not wrong, the highest purpose of Christian porn is to enrich the sexual relationship between believers. It is not primarily intended to be used by individuals to inflame their own desires or as a substitute for a relationship. Under some circumstances, an individual might be justified in viewing this material on his or her own. For example, if the purpose of viewing the pornography is ultimately in the service of the marriage, if a man wanted to become better instructed in how to please his wife orally, or if a wife needed help getting in touch with her sexuality in order to be more open to intimacy with her husband.
Likewise, a single person might find Christian porn instructional if it better prepares them for relating to their future spouse. One of the complaints against conventional pornography is that it creates unrealistic expectations about sex and warps the viewer’s attitudes towards sexuality and the opposite sex. This argument could not be made against Christian porn, because it would be presenting a healthy and realistic representation of married Christian sexual life, and would be modeling correct and respectful husband-wife relationships, creating a positive vision for what can be expected in a future marriage.
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